Tuesday, October 22, 2013
My Research question pertains
to parenting. "What is the best and most effective way to discipline a child?" From my personal experiences I would say that
spanking is not the way to discipline a child. I feel that spanking should be
the very very last thing on the discipline list. When I say spanking, I’m referring
to a tap on the hand. When I was a child my parents used spanking as their way
to discipline myself and my siblings. I feel that they never abused spanking
but they did however spank us when we were behaving badly. My parents just wanted us to behave proper and
respect everyone especially them. They never spanked us just to do it. It was
more of a teaching kind of way to get our attention. I know one thing for sure
is that it worked. Do I think it would have made me any different from the way
I am today probably not! I knew that if I did something very bad I was going to
get in trouble. I never talked back to my parents ever. It was consider disrespectful
and wrong. Now days it seems like kids don’t respect their parents or their
elders as much as they did when I was growing up. Does that have to do with
different backgrounds and beliefs about discipline certainly? I come from a
strong traditional background and being punished for something I did wrong was
not consider a bad thing it was the norm at least that’s my opinion. I think
that most parents today think of discipline as a time out. But does that really
work? I have not yet meet a parent that believes in spanking as a form to discipline
a child. However I have met older parents and grandparents that think some kids
are out of control and it may be because that child was never disciplined
growing up. I want to find out what discipline techniques work the best and
what are the ways that are not as effective when it comes to discipline.
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Hi Ness, I think this is a great topic to research. We were just talking about this the other day in my psychology class. I think too many kids get away with a lot and they aren't getting disciplined. I was spanked as a child, and personally, for me I think it was very effective. I think that because I knew if I did something bad I was going to get a spanking. I don't think it is a bad thing at all, unless a child was abused, then it could be a different story. You see so many kids getting in trouble these days: school shootings, kids being disrespectful to their elders, etc. I think parents have a lot to do with this. I am not a parent yet so I guess I don't know exactly how I would control my kids until I am their, but I do know they will be respectful. It's just sad all these people have kids, but don' t have anything to do with them. I wonder if the bad behavior is because they don't get enough attention as well? I'm looking forward to reading more on your topic!
ReplyDeleteI think you have a really good start as to your specific background and knowledge on the subject, as well as looking at it from both angles. I was defiantly physically disciplined as a child, not at all in a harmful way, and i think it was effective, and not a bad thing. I think your point about the time out and that being the new way of disciplining is very interesting as well. I had never contrasted the two different ways, and maybe sitting in time out is partly the kids decision to as a way to escape spanking. As well as you i have heard many elders say the same about some kids being out of control and such, what age range do you consider this is affecting most currently?
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