I have been very great full as to finding many
books and Articles pertaining to my research topic. I started my
search using the Front Range Community College, online library resource
link. One of the tabs that I used was the "Consumer Health Complete"
tab. I felt that this would be more related to what I am searching
for. When I started my research I was leaning a little more towards using
spanking as a last resort technique when it comes to discipline. I
think that the reason I was more pro-spanking is because that's how I was
disciplined as a child. As I have come to find out spanking is not
an effective form of discipline. After reading up on all the negative
effects spanking can have on children. I'm definitely leaning towards
positive and effective forms when it comes to discipline.
My first resource I found was an article
titled "Breaking Your Bad Habits." I felt that this article was
very realistic on the advice it gives to parents on ways to discipline
your children. It was about how parents can sometimes making kids
fell like they are just as overwhelm as the parents when it comes to
discipline. How most parents come to realization and start to questioning
"how did their child get like that? (Par 2.) What I liked most about
this article was that it gave very detailed examples on what to do if the
parenting style isn't working for the parent or the child. When children
misbehave most likely they are aware on how their parents are going to
discipline them. So to keep the child from misbehaving requires parents to
always change up the style so that discipline is always positive and
effective. Neifert suggest to always staying patient with yourself and
with the child if he/she is misbehaving. In this article she gives specific examples on
what parents do and what they should actually do when it comes to
discipline. Anytime a parent is
disciplining their child always remember to show affection and let the kid know
that they are loved.
In my second source I found an article titled “Spanking”
by B.D. Schmitt. I thought reading an article written by an advisor can be some
great help when it comes to my research topic. In this topic Schmitt reveals alternatives
when it comes to spanking that can help raise well-mannered children without
using physical punishment. Some parents may think that spanking is effective
but it’s really not. Spanking can harm your child and have a negative effective
on the child. Spanking a child will only lead the child to think that it’s ok
to hit others when it really isn’t. According to Schmitt “less than 50% of
American parents still occasionally use physicals punishment” (par 4). The article continues on about the negative effects
but further down the article is a “Safeguard” list for parents that believe
spanking is effective. On this list there are some examples on when, how, and where
to spank your OWN child. At the end of the list parents are reminded that if
they are constantly spanking their child, maybe they can take a class or seek therapy
as to what’s really going on.
Works Cited
Neifert, Marianne. "Breaking Your Bad Habits." Parenting, Dec/Jan 2005. Volume 18, Issue 11. 176-180.
Schmitt, B.D. "Spanking." CRS-Pediatric Advisor. 2013, p1-1.
So this is interesting and I have heard spanking lately is not the way to go. I think it depends on the kids and parents though. I too was spanked as a child and I think it worked for me. I think society today is portraying spanking to be worse than it is. I agree for some kids it will teach them to behave worse and hit others, but all not all kids. Did you find anything else on how spanking can improve behavior? Or do they not even talk about that as an option anymore? I honestly don't think just sending a kid to the corner even helps their bad behavior. I guess that's why there can be so many different parenting styles out. What works for some parents and kids might not work for the others. It would be nice to hear more results from both sides, or even hear different opinions of what parents do to discipline their children; maybe some type of interview or something? That could be some good first hand information. I will be looking to see what you find out.
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I was also spanked as a child and sometimes even got the belt if I was really bad. I think it definitely helped me to understand that I needed to respect my parents or there would be consequences. My parents did not use this a lot but when they did, I think it was warranted. I think that there is a line between being spanked and actually being too excessive and it being abusive. I think kids today know that they can't be spanked and so they kind of have an attitude of you can't do anything to me and so they can get away with a lot more. I see kids who don't respect their parents and they talk back, ignore them and don't listen to them. They are just plain rude. Also, I don't think parents actually know how to effectively talk to their child. Parents tend to talk down to the kids. I think they should be talked to more on the child's level and explain the reasoning behind the behavior and talk about consequences if they continue with the behavior. I am all about choices with my kids. We talk about things and if they continue doing the action, then I give them a choice of different consequences. I think this is good because everyday in life we have to think about and make choices realizing that whatever choice we make will have consequences whether those be good or bad. Hopefully, parents will pay attention to the good choices and reward or praise them so they will continue to make the correct ones.
ReplyDeleteBoth of these articles seem like great resources for your subject. Learning how to effectively discipline and set boundaries for children is a huge obstacle for many parents. My parents also used the spanking method which I don't remember having any positive effects on myself or my siblings. Growing up with spanking as a punishment led to my own choosing to never use spanking with my child, (though there were times that I felt like it would have been the easiest thing to do.) I didn't always have the answers and there were times that I struggled in coming up with new ways to help my daughter learn important lessons about appropriate behavior, so I looked to parenting books from many different points of view. I think that there are always options and resorting to physical means of punishment just teaches children that hurting others is okay because much of the behaviors of children are learned from their parents. I like how the first article said that it was important to change up your techniques. I had to do this over and over again because my daughter would catch on to how I would respond and try to figure out loop-holes in my methods! I also think parents need to have more access to alternative methods because they don't always know where to look for help.
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