Finding the correct and most effective forms to discipline a
child can be difficult. But finding ways that work without enforcing fear is
the key when it comes to discipline.
According to Virginia
Cooperative Extension “Mutual
respect and love are also an important part of the discipline process.”
This
photograph of a father daughter in a picture surrounded with a blurred
background image indicates that they are the main focus in the picture. The
close up of this picture also indicates the importance of the father and
daughter relationship as well as the importance of their communication. The
little girl is wearing a long sleeve shirt with pink pants to match this indicates
that this photo may have been taken during fall or winter time.I sense a little sadness and disappointment in the little girl’s facial impression. It also seems that the little girl is siting with her hands crossed with her head sort of pointed down, but she maintains eye contact with her father while he is talking to her. It seems that maybe the little girl may have done something wrong. And instead of the father using physical force it seems he is using positive discipline. I say that the father is using positive discipline is because, even though he may be upset he still has his are wrapped around his little girl. That indicates that he is showing that no matter what she did he loves her. Is positive discipline the way to go when teaching kids? What effects does positive discipline have on children? Do children really learn from their own mistakes?
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Ness,
ReplyDeleteThis is a great photo!! When my daughter is in trouble I always sit down to her eye-level and ask her to make eye contact with me. I always either touch her shoulders or have her sit on my lap. I am gentle, but firm. If she is being unsafe she needs to know that it is unacceptable. I always tell her what she did wrong, why it was wrong, and that I love her. Every single time. I never yell or spank her (I was spanked as a child and I think turned out fine), but it is just not in my nature to be able to spank her.
I can't wait to see how your blog continues,
Brittany
This image is an excellent example of positive discipline. The fact that the little girl is maintaining eye contact while being disciplined is really impressive. To me, this fact alone proves that the parents have done something right. It makes me wonder though at what point this type of discipline was first set into motion. In my experience, you have to start when children are very young in order to achieve this type of reaction from a child when being disciplined. It will teach your children mutual respect and understanding when dealing with others, not only their parents. But what happens when it’s not the parent disciplining? Do you think children that are used to a positive discipline would have a very difficult time with a different type of discipline? What if the individual parents discipline differently; will this affect the child as well? Do you think consistency is key in this type of discipline and if consistency doesn't exist, what is the outcome? I’m very interested to see what type of information you gather on this topic. Good luck on your topic!
ReplyDeleteNess,
ReplyDeleteI think you picked out a great picture because you are right it is showing positive discipline. The dad is calmly talking to her, and she seems to be paying attention. Honestly to me, with having three boys who get in trouble quite often I see a little smirk in her face. A little smile saying haha.
With my son who has border line autism it is very hard to get him to focus. His mind is always going 100 miles per hour when trying to have a conversation. I have learned that using more force with him helps him listen. I wrap my arms around him fairly tight and it sends a calming sensation to him and he is able to listen.
One time I had to use “what you do to your brother I do to you” trick as well. My oldest son was always biting his baby brother. The next time he bit, I turned around and bit him right back just as hard as he bit his brother. I sometimes think that showing a child how something hurts can help them understand why we don’t want them to do it. Being a stay at home child my son had no idea he was actually causing pain when would bite someone. Let’s just say he hasn’t bit again.
Now days if you spank your child you can get into trouble with social services, and in my opinion if a child needs a little tap on the bottom to re-enforce them then I will do that. I think you have a great start to your essay and I looking forward to reading it.