3 Final Sources - Effective Parenting

 

Searching for my last three sources was difficult because there is so much research on my topic. However I did choose the three I feel that will help me really get my point across using great detail and support. One of my sources I found on EBSCO, and the other two I found using the Front Range online library. I have not come across any documents that are pro spanking. Most articles that I have found are all against spanking and write their views and effects of spanking

                                                                                              

                                                                     

 

I decide to use EBSCO for one of my last three sources and came across this article “The effects of spanking” by Kazdin, and Benjet. This article was very informative of “why parents believe spanking/hitting is an appropriate & effective form?” (pg. 1).  It gives some great examples on why spanking isn’t even necessary when it comes to discipline. It also defines spanking and child abuse and what things make these two forms very different.  What I really like about this article is that it’s helpful to all parents and it gives views on what is corporal punishment (spanking) non-corporal punishment, and the conditional corporal punishment.  In the end of this article it gives outcomes and effects on each one of these discipline techniques and last “the goals of parent discipline.” This is to decrease bad behavior, and promote positive behavior. (pg. 3). 

 

Another source I found from the Front Range online library. This article titled “Kids still spanked, to the Detriment study finds,” Written by Dennis Thompson for the Healthy Day Consumer.  Thompson argues about, why and how, “spanking can affect a child’s behavior.” (par.1). and how these effects can go on for many years. He supports his argument based on facts and from the studies shown from the research based on the families and progammes. As I found in my previous sources, Thomson claims that “spanking only promotes bad behavior” and “spanking influences aggression” (par.8).   I totally agree with him on this statement. I can see how spanking can lead to negatives behavior and that is because the parent is promoting it by spanking the child, therefore the child believes that whatever mom or dad is doing to teach him/her must be okay to do to others.                                                                                                     

  

My final source I found on the Front Range online library under the “Consumer Health Center” tab.  This last article I researched was written by three authors, Barlow, J. Parsons, J. and Stewart-Brown, S. The article is titled “Preventing emptions & behavioral problems: The effectiveness of parenting programmes with children less than 3 years of age.” The reason I wanted to use this article as a source is because it’s about preventing bad behavior, and I feel that effective discipline should start at a young age. This article was very detail about its views when it comes to positive and effective discipline and it starts at an early age.  This was also based on a study to find out if effective parenting really works. And basically helping parents prevent their child/children from “emotional & behavioral problems” (par.1).  This article is very thorough about the certain methods parents should when it comes to discipline and the different strategies that parents should be aware of. It also gives the results from the study based on the certain programs and it list which ones were more effective and why they were more effective for the parent and the child.  Overall I think that this article was really helpful for me to come to a decision of my own that effective parenting does really work.  At first I thought spanking was effective but spanking only works at that time and moment but what most parents  that use spanking as a discipline method aren’t aware of  id the long time effects this can have on their children.  I think this is going to be very helpful for all parents and even those who are planning to become parents in the near future.

 

Lastly I wanted to share this link please take a moment to watch the short video about positive discipline. Titled- What is Positive Discipline?

 http://www.youtube.com/v/4tBbL7VcNh0?autohide=1&version=3&attribution_tag=3FS6QGPCL3GgyOiUa7Io0A&autoplay=1&feature=share&autohide=1&showinfo=1

 

                                               

 

 

  Works Cited:

Barlow, J. Parsons, J. Stewart-Brown, S. “Parenting Emotional & Behavioral Problems: The effectiveness of Parenting Programmes with Children Less Than 3 Years of Age,” Child: Care Health & Development. Jan 2005, Vol. 13 Issue 1, P33-42

Benjet, Corina, Kazdin, Alah E. “The Effects of Spanking” Corporal Punishment. Current Directions in Psychological Science June 2003, Vol.12 Issue 3, P99-103

Thompson, Dennis. “Kids Still Spanked To Their Detriment, Study Finds” Healthy Day Consumer, News Service. 10/21/2013

 

I have been very great full as to finding many books and Articles pertaining to my research topic. I started my search using the Front Range Community College, online library resource link. One of the tabs that I used was the "Consumer Health Complete" tab. I felt that this would be more related to what I am searching for. When I started my research I was leaning a little more towards using spanking as a last resort technique when it comes to discipline. I think that the reason I was more pro-spanking is because that's how I was disciplined as a child. As I have come to find out spanking is not an effective form of discipline. After reading up on all the negative effects spanking can have on children. I'm definitely leaning towards positive and effective forms when it comes to discipline.

            

                                                   

My first resource I found was an article titled "Breaking Your Bad Habits."  I felt that this article was very realistic on the advice it gives to parents on ways to discipline your children. It was about how parents can sometimes making kids fell like they are just as overwhelm as the parents when it comes to discipline. How most parents come to realization and start to questioning "how did their child get like that? (Par 2.)  What I liked most about this article was that it gave very detailed examples on what to do if the parenting style isn't working for the parent or the child. When children misbehave most likely they are aware on how their parents are going to discipline them. So to keep the child from misbehaving requires parents to always change up the style so that discipline is always positive and effective. Neifert suggest to always staying patient with yourself and with the child if he/she is misbehaving.  In this article she gives specific examples on what parents do and what they should actually do when it comes to discipline.  Anytime a parent is disciplining their child always remember to show affection and let the kid know that they are loved. 

                                                                                                                   

 

In my second source I found an article titled “Spanking” by B.D. Schmitt. I thought reading an article written by an advisor can be some great help when it comes to my research topic. In this topic Schmitt reveals alternatives when it comes to spanking that can help raise well-mannered children without using physical punishment. Some parents may think that spanking is effective but it’s really not. Spanking can harm your child and have a negative effective on the child. Spanking a child will only lead the child to think that it’s ok to hit others when it really isn’t. According to Schmitt “less than 50% of American parents still occasionally use physicals punishment” (par 4).  The article continues on about the negative effects but further down the article is a “Safeguard” list for parents that believe spanking is effective. On this list there are some examples on when, how, and where to spank your OWN child. At the end of the list parents are reminded that if they are constantly spanking their child, maybe they can take a class or seek therapy as to what’s really going on.

 

Works Cited

Photos-http://www.crystalgraphics.com/powerpictures/images.photos.asp?page=3&testing=0&qs=yes&ss=discipline&ipp=48&c=page&newflag=all

Neifert, Marianne. "Breaking Your Bad Habits." Parenting, Dec/Jan 2005. Volume 18, Issue 11. 176-180.

Schmitt, B.D. "Spanking." CRS-Pediatric Advisor. 2013, p1-1.

      Finding the correct and most effective forms to discipline a child can be difficult. But finding ways that work without enforcing fear is the key when it comes to discipline.  According to Virginia Cooperative Extension “Mutual respect and love are also an important part of the discipline process.”

      This photograph of a father daughter in a picture surrounded with a blurred background image indicates that they are the main focus in the picture. The close up of this picture also indicates the importance of the father and daughter relationship as well as the importance of their communication. The little girl is wearing a long sleeve shirt with pink pants to match this indicates that this photo may have been taken during fall or winter time.
      I sense a little sadness and disappointment in the little girl’s facial impression. It also seems that the little girl is siting with her hands crossed with her head sort of pointed down, but she maintains eye contact with her father while he is talking to her. It seems that maybe the little girl may have done something wrong. And instead of the father using physical force it seems he is using positive discipline. I say that the father is using positive discipline is because, even though he may be upset he still has his are wrapped around his little girl. That indicates that he is showing that no matter what she did he loves her.  Is positive discipline the way to go when teaching kids? What effects does positive discipline have on children? Do children really learn from their own mistakes?

Works Citied:

http://www.livestrong.com/article/97795-types-child-discipline/#ixzz2igXumKOX

My Research question pertains to parenting. "What is the best and most effective way to discipline a child?"  From my personal experiences I would say that spanking is not the way to discipline a child. I feel that spanking should be the very very last thing on the discipline list. When I say spanking, I’m referring to a tap on the hand. When I was a child my parents used spanking as their way to discipline myself and my siblings. I feel that they never abused spanking but they did however spank us when we were behaving badly.  My parents just wanted us to behave proper and respect everyone especially them. They never spanked us just to do it. It was more of a teaching kind of way to get our attention. I know one thing for sure is that it worked. Do I think it would have made me any different from the way I am today probably not! I knew that if I did something very bad I was going to get in trouble. I never talked back to my parents ever. It was consider disrespectful and wrong. Now days it seems like kids don’t respect their parents or their elders as much as they did when I was growing up. Does that have to do with different backgrounds and beliefs about discipline certainly? I come from a strong traditional background and being punished for something I did wrong was not consider a bad thing it was the norm at least that’s my opinion. I think that most parents today think of discipline as a time out. But does that really work? I have not yet meet a parent that believes in spanking as a form to discipline a child. However I have met older parents and grandparents that think some kids are out of control and it may be because that child was never disciplined growing up. I want to find out what discipline techniques work the best and what are the ways that are not as effective when it comes to discipline.

Hi my name is Ness. I am a Colorado native. I was born and raised in Denver. I have been married almost eight years now. I'm a mother to three wonderful children, my oldest is six years old and my twin boys are four years old.  I'm a recent stay at home mom. I recently quit my sales job of five years so that I can continue my education in business. I have been a student at FRCC for almost one and a half years.  The reason I set up this blog is to help generate ideas for one of my English writing essays.  I am working on an argumentative essay. "What are the most effective forms to discipline a child?" I feel that this is always a hot topic when it comes to parenting.  Especially when I ask parents “what are some ways they use to discipline their children?”  Please feel free to comment or give examples on effective ways that can help when it comes, to how to discipline a child.